Top 10 Epic Awesomeness of 2013

One hundred fifty eight blog posts were written this year and I wanted to share with you the top 10 most popular. These are the ones that resonated with you the most. These came from deep places within me and I hope they provide you with insight, comfort, or that resonate within you. Bless you lovely souls and thank you for giving me an outlet for 158 thoughts, feelings, and bits of wisdom that came through my head this year. Here’s to many more years to come.

I’ve Got Diamonds at the Meeting of My Thighs

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
I love those lines, they just speak so eloquently of our value as woman and embracing our sexuality.

How do you feel when you read those lines?

Are you able to embrace your sexiness? Feeling sexy can be really difficult, especially if you have body image issues. When I reached adulthood my body image was so bad that I never felt sexy. Eventually I got my first boyfriend and the only time I felt sexy was when he told me I was. Can you relate? [[Read More]]

How To: Self Love

Right now I could tell you that you should love and accept yourself just how you are, and that’s true to some extent. You are deserving of love just as you are in this moment, no matter how flawed or broken you perceive yourself to be.


To really love yourself, you gotta be someone worth loving, in your own opinion.
I’m not saying that you need to change yourself, to love yourself by any means. I think the first step is to look at yourself and look at your life and ask yourself:
What’s stopping you?  [[Read More]]

“No” – The Test of Self Love

It is our job to take care of our needs. It is not your job to take care of everyone else’s needs. You have to give to yourself, you have to nurture yourself, and when those things are laid to the wayside by someone else’s wants and needs it is time to re-evaluate your boundaries.
When someone asks you to do something tune into your intuition. What does your gut say? What is your first instinct? Go with that, that is listening to the truth of your heart. What does your body say? Are you extra tired or stressed out? Even if it’s something you want to do, maybe it’s time to take your body’s side this time and bow out so that you have extra time for yourself to rest and relax. [[Read More]]

I Want You To Love Your Body Because…

It’s yours and it’s beautiful.
Your body is beautiful because it allows your heart to beat, it allows your arms to hold and your feet to move. It allows you to do things that you’d never be able to do if you were just a mind or just a soul. You get to experience so much because your body exists.
I get asked all of the time, “How do I love my body?” It’s a really simple answer, but I know it’s hard to put it into practice. It took me a long time to get the hang of it.  [[Read More]]

Living in the Present Moment

Who here suffers from anxiety? *raises hand* I’ve dealt with anxiety for almost as long as I can remember. In middle school it manifested itself in constant tummy aches and missing lots of school, in high school I learned what an anxiety attack was and to hide out in the girl’s bathroom until they passed.

There are tons of ways to cope with anxiety and there has been one tiny thing that has been a big help. [[Read More]]

Are you feeling it too?

That’s what we all wish for the New Year isn’t it? For it not to suck in the ways that it sucked the year before. A lot of that has to do with our attitude.

We hold the power of the non-suck. Like a scepter we can choose to wield or shove in some dusty corner of the closet because it’s too heavy, and it’s too much work.
If you don’t want this year to suck like the last one, then don’t let it. If you want this year to be different than the year before, then make it happen. [[Read More]]

Are you detoxing?

One of the things that comes up a lot of the time with my peoples is why does it hurt to change?
When you start changes, good changes and positive changes, why do things start sucking even more? Because you are detoxing. When you give up the bad-for-you-things, whether they are physical or emotional, your body and your mind rebels.
Everyone has a certain set of default reactions, feelings, emotions, and coping mechanisms inside of them. We can change them, but it’s not easy and it takes more than a few days, weeks, and sometimes even months and years. [[Read More]]

What my life looked life before self care.

I’m a pretty big self love advocate (just in case you’ve been hiding under a rock somewhere and didn’t know). It’s what I want to do for the rest of my life, encouraging women to discover the ability to love who they are.
This path hasn’t been easy. I haven’t always loved myself, in fact I have downright hated myself, loathed myself, and wished that there was some way I could erase my existence. I don’t like the thought of other women feeling that way. I want to smooth the path for that transition of hate to love and provide resources to make it nourishing.
I’m pretty sure that I have the best job in the entire world. I want to tell you what my life looked like before. [[Read More]]

Single Lady Loneliness and Aloneness

Loneliness is when being alone doesn’t feel good. You feel like something is missing, you feel a lack of connectedness with yourself or with others. Being alone feels like a burden and you have no one to share it with. The aloneness suddenly makes you feel isolated from everyone else. It’s usually accompanied by Depression. Loneliness really sucks. There’s really not much of a difference between aloneness and loneliness other than your state of mind and what you do with it. [[Read More]]

The Gift of Hope

I know that a lot of you, like me are sensitive to the news. You sweet sensitives and empathic lovelies see or hear something bad that has happened and it gets inside of your heart.
It hurts sometimes.
With everything that’s going on in the world sometimes all you can do is sit there, holding back tears, wishing you could fix it and make it better.
It hurts to feel so powerless.
I keep reminding myself that all I can do is do what I do. Try to share my messages, try to plant that seed of hope or love or self-esteem where I can. [[Read More]]

Here’s to many more great posts! What’s your favorite? 

  • Shann

    Thank you for sharing your top 10! What a great idea! I think What my life looked before self is my favorite. Happy Holy-days!

  • Tabetha Smelser

    Thank you so much for sharing these!!! I got to read some of your posts that I missed or had overlooked because I mentally wasn't in a place to read them. I have to say, several of these resonated with where I am right now and I happily read through them. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Tabetha Smelser

    I absolutely love this. I'm mentally preparing for 2014 right now so I'm very glad to read this right now. This past year has sucked some major panda balls and I'm ready to let it go, and have an incredible new year, and I am going to work every single day to make that be true.

  • Dominee

    Thank you Shann! Happy New Year!

  • Dominee

    I'm so glad that you found them and thank you so much for all your comments. I definitely want to focus more on writing about body love in 2014. Thank you for being inspiring!

  • Pamela Perkins

    I think they are all good but I really like Single Lady because a lot of people don't like being alone or are afraid of being alone and thru Your words they can see that being alone has it's positive points and it gives the person time to pamper themselves and learn and grow besides…….It wont be forever ๐Ÿ™‚